Thursday, April 14, 2011

Looking out my window...

I work with mentally ill adults and here recently my job has become more challanging than I could have ever imagined it. Each day I coem to work and think I wonder what the day will bring.  These stories vary from "My boyfriend gave me an STD" to "I need to find housing and get out of the shelter".  These are all adults who have not been dealt the best hand in life and need assistance to remain out of jail, shelters, or the psychiatric hospital.  Some days I feel super rewarded with the assistance I have provided someone or when you see someone reach a goal they have set and they are so excited to share that with you.  The past three weeks however; I have felt like everyday I am being drained....AND JUST FROM ONE PERSON.  My newest resident  calls me between 6-12 times daily and always things that his needs are far more than anyone else's.  It just makes me realize how fortunate I am with all that I have, and even with the things that I struggle with, it is nothing like what my clients deal with day to day.

From my office window however; I am often, even daily, surprised with what I see.  One day it was a occupied hoover round towing another occupied hoover round.  I guess that is what you need if yours breaks down?? Or the day that I thought was a Jerry Springer episode being taped where these two girls got into a fight then one hit the ex-boyfriend with her car and he went flying!  (Im guessing he was an ex, or at least he is now).  And then she hit a bush.  Some days, like today, I will see possibly prostitutes walking down the street.  It always provides me entertainment and again, fortunate to be where I am!


very blurry.....but HooverRound in Tow



I have gone back into hiding on my dating site.  I contact people that I feel I may have something in common with.  Most I will admit do not live in this area, but do live within 2 hours.  That may be ok to date.  I went for drinks this week with Pugle.  We had great conversation and the next day asked me via text message "so did you think that I was hot, cute, attractive, or OMG".  What an ackward question to ask.  My response "obviously I found you attractive or I would not have agreed to go out again". I am not sure that he liked that response, but really at this point and time in my life and at my age I realize that looks are not everything.  I also want someone with similar interests and someone who is kind and nice, and wants to be with me. I should have seen red flags with The Realtor when his profile said things like:

"You aint wants to pass me up is you knows what im sayin"

and when asked about what his ideal first date would be his response:

"Unlike former President George W. I'm not the decider. Your choice Wendy's or Burger King!!"

Really...I know better! Or at least I should have, but I guess that is all part of the wonderful world they call dating!!

This weekend while doing yard work, putting down mulch, and mowing I stepped in you guessed it...DOG POO. My street has a lot of brick walls that are flush with the sidewalk limiting "green area" for dogs to do their business...until they get to my yard.  It really upsets me that my neighbors find it acceptable for their dogs to leave their POO in my yard for me to step in or slip on when I am mowing the grass.  So as a result the following sign will be placed most tackily in my yard:

And YES I will be paying closer attention too!!

Happy Thursday!


Sunday, April 10, 2011

Back At It

Well needless to say it has been quit a week.  My Grandfather passed away and is at peace, so that makes me at peace.  For at least 8 years he has been slowly declining with the things that he enjoyed the most and ultimately was in a nursing home where he could do nothing and gave up.  He was a great man and served our country. He was in Pearl Harbor, was on the Ringness and rescued the survivors from the Indianapolis when it was sunk, he designed Memorial for Pearl Harbor Survivors across the US, he helped with the renovations of the White House and made memorabilia from the original materials from the White House for our family as well as for the actual White House (which remain there today).  He was married to my sweet Grandmother for 63 years (who is still alive). He will be greatly missed and left his mark on my heart as well as stories in the Library of Congress for his time served. 

So I am back on the dating scene.  The Realtor had said that he wanted "to think" about what he wanted after he arrived at my house with Roses and a note that was undecipherable:


So I thought..."well this is a step in the possible right direction, "maybe just maybe this could work".  Maybe he just needed a little shake up and to think about what he wants.  Then he says in text " I got you YELLOW roses because they mean new beginnings"...ummm he left WHITE Roses.  Anyway, it goes to show how little to detail men pay to things.  Well, so as I am thinking that we will maybe give this dating each other thing another thought I look on the dating site (which he had removed himself from when we were seeing each other) and see..

EWWWWW!! Is that a hooker or a stripper??  Either way I am completely disgusted that (1) he has pics and does things like either of those and (2) That he would post it! And on a dating site.  What girl would look at this picture and think "hmmm...he looks desirable and I want to date someone like that!"  I think that this was the deal sealer with all the other things, so happy to be looking for greener pastures!

So with my new excitement (not really) of back on the dating scene I make my profile viewable again.  One of my first emails was from this guy:

and his email says "lamest profile ever".  ABOUT ME.. My profile is far from awful!  He got a nice email from me saying that I was not sure why he would even respond AND it was because of men like him that I have been in "hiding" so as to not get emails from losers like him.  After the email was sent, he was immediately blocked!! It feels so good :)

While I was in hiding, it allowed me to be the person to seek out men that I was interested in. I will say that I did come across a few good possibilities and we have been corresponding. They are both attractive, can put together a sentence that is decipherable, we seem to have common interests, and well...they seem kinda normal. But don't they all??

 



So I am feeling pretty good about this second (or 100th) go at dating, because it is all about timing! THEN I come across profiles like this..


Here is what his profile reads:
HEY YALL,CHANGEING THIS AGAIN...IM A 37 YRS.OLD,GARAGE OWNER,I STAY DIRTY MOST OF THE TIME,BUT
IVE BEEN TOLD I CLEAN UP PRETTY GOOD.. IM A STRAIT UP GUY THAT WILL NOT DEAL WITH LIES...THATS WHY IM SINGLE NOW..I LOVE DRAG RACEING,CAMPING,DIRTBIKE RIDEING,PLAYING GUITAR,BUT MOST OF ALL ILOVE SPENDING TIME WITH SOS. IF YOUR HONEST SINCIRE, AND READY FOR SOMEONE TOO, SHOWER YOU WITH EFFECTION...HOLLER AT ME!

IF YOU HAVE OR NEED MENTAL PAPERS, KEEP ON GITTN ON!

LADYS, IM SIMPLE...BUT VERY SINCIRE,IM ON HERE FOR YHE REASON THIS SITE WAS INTENDED FOR. I LIKE TO PLAY,BUT I TAKE THIS VERY SERIOUS. SO IF YOUR JUST WANTIN TO PLAY, AND NOT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP PLEASE SAVE ME THE DIGNITY


So I say...Happy Dating!

I have started my Spring Garden of broccoli, spinach and Romaine Lettuce.  I am very excited for spring and working in the yard.  I was not excited about the small snake I found (and BTW I live in the CITY) and killed in fear it COULD be poisonous and harm my dogs. In the back is my compost bin that I am starting this year and excited for great soil it will bring me!!

With Spring and the approach of Summer comes thunder storms and with that comes panic attacks for Grace.  Lets say this past week has been rough for her AND me, more so her though. I just lost sleep trying to console her, she thought that the house was going to cave in on her and freaked out.  Fortunately I have gotten her Xanax refilled and we should be good to go!

HAPPY SPRING EVERYONE!!!

Friday, April 1, 2011

No Fooling Here

Well it has obviously been quite some time since the last blog.  WOW...and what has happened is too much to blog about. Well lets just say that the Realtor is CLUELESS on how to date and perhaps on what he even wants.  It is somehow accepatble to stand me up, be late, and talk to me as if one of the guys.  OH not to mention to tell me to kiss his ass.  Well granted he was rather intoxicated but regardless.  He has left me confused, bewildered, upsent and dreading returning to the dating pool. He has told me how he cannot wait to see me, how beautiful I am, told me to kiss his ass, brought me flowers, begged me to go out with him, I said "yes" and then called me an asshole and is so anticipating seeing me tonight at 7?!?! REALLY?? After several...and a patient several texts from me trying to make him understand that people dont want to hang out with others that call you an asshole.  Anyway so I have returned to the site..............ugh

SO with that being said.  Since this rollercoaster of a short term relationship was coming to a foreseen end I had kinda already started looking.  Low and behold, I have found two potential candidates.  One lives two hours from me and the other, I think within an hour.  The first we will call NY/NC and he seemed so lovely.  I shared his profile with DSS and she agreed.  But I feel he is perhaps hiding something like a wife or girlfriend.  But we will see how it plays out.  The second breaks one of my rules of no students, we will call him Pugle.  He also seems worth exploring more. But who knows.

There are slim pickin's in the pool.  Their "catch phrases" I guess if that is what you want to call them include:  Looking for total package; Hey dont knock it till u try it; Wanted Honest Classy Lady!!!!! ;  Try me; (perhaps one of my favorites) where is the good ladys at; lookin for the one to make me happy;  Monogamy is not a tree.  I think you get the hint.  The pictures and profiles that accompany these "catch phrases" or "pick up lines" are often times as discussed in an earlier blog even more appealing.  Pictures with their tongues hanging out, pictures of them giving "the bird" with both fingers, pictures of them (shirts off & sometimes pants off, undergarments on) showing their physique, and sometimes just of their "6 pack of abs" (not even a picture of their face).  All so desireable I am wanting to immediately send an email or a wink to them....however my computer seems to lock up thankfully preventing such things from happening. 

SO with so many prospects just waiting in line, the classy pick up lines and being called an asshole and in less than ten minutes later "I can't wait to see you at 7 tomorrow", I think I am going to focus on losing weight and having fun. After all it is spring time and counting down the days until it is warm enough to feel the warm summer sun on my beach ready body (hopefully)!

OH and Daisy seems to be doing slightly better.  As my grandparents say. "I am better than when I was worse".